In Spanish, there is a distinction between platonic and “serious” love. In fact, there are two totally separate words for the verb “to love.” In English, we don’t make the same distinction. And especially not in high school. You date a person for a month and you think you’re in love with him or her. That may be how it was portrayed in movies; kids falling in fast, deep, complicated love. But that’s not how it works in real life. Real love develops over time; it’s not a sudden rush of emotion. Which is what happens to teenagers. We are at a very emotional stage in our life and we interpret everything as 20x more than what it actually means. I’ve thought I was in love three times now, and three times I’ve been shown that I was not, really. But that’s all right with me. Who is to say that I need to be in love? Society? Twilight? Hah. The teenage years are supposed to be about figuring out who you are. Experimentation, not committment. We are not physically and emotionally ready for that yet. But everyone is so desperate to fall in love as fast as they can. Not me. I just want to go on dates and smile and laugh and have fun without thinking about future implications.
“Look, other bands, they want to make it about sex or pain, but you know, The Beatles, they had it all figured out, okay? ‘I Want to Hold Your Hand.’ The first single. It’s effing brilliant, right? That’s what everybody wants, Nicky. They don’t want a twenty-four-hour hump sesh, they don’t want to be married to you for a hundred years. They just want to hold your hand.”
-Nick & Norah’s Infinite Playlist
I love this quote. Which explains my blog slogan, I just wanna hold your hand. It’s the simplicity of life that we really need. Not true love or happy endings. Just every day.
Think about that.